Career Success is Very Seldom Based on Career Duress EQ#6 Self-Actualization

From youth I had a high amount of energy to do things that made me happy. Along with my friends we dreamed of being jet fighters. We couldn’t fly and we didn’t have equipment, so we improvised.  We used bicycles for locomotion and put underwear over our heads for pilot masks (the leg holes of.. read more →

Lessons Learned While Pole Vaulting a Sewer– EQ #5 Self-Regard

Bob Seagren was an Olympic Gold Medalist in the Pole Vault. My brother and I were young boys, idolizing great athletes. After seeing Seagren pole vault so well, we decided we wanted to take a try at it ourselves. When you are a young boy and don’t have the fancy poles, track shoes, standards to.. read more →

Yao Ming’s Biggest Adjustment to the USA Was Probably OFF THE COURT- EQ #4 Independence

I am a basketball fan. When Yao Ming was drafted into the NBA, few of us knew much about him.  We were intrigued. As one writer stated so well after his retirement, “Yao Ming introduced many Americans to China.” Many knew so little about China until there was Yao:). “The most mature rice stock bends.. read more →

Tired of Feeling You are Getting Walked on? EQ #3 Assertiveness

“Sometimes we have to impose our will on others,” is what a colleague voiced to me while we struggled with scheduling events in an Asian Country.  Unfortunately, as Americans, we often tend to think this way.  We expect other cultures to do things the way we do them, and when they don’t, we try to.. read more →

Can a Country Create 1000 Steve Jobs?

One of my favorite venues to meet with emerging leaders and discuss engaging topics over the years has been coffee houses at Nanjing University.  Nanjing University is a top university in China and the students are some of the brightest and most ambitious I have met. Apparently, after Steve Jobs died, the Chinese government decided.. read more →

It Pays to Know What You Feel…..(EQ #2)

“Emotional self-awareness is the ability to recognize your feelings, to differentiate between them, to know why you are feeling these feelings, and to recognize the impact your feelings have on others around you” (EQ Edge, 57). Emotionally healthy people: Use emotion words like: mad, sad, hurt, scared, frustrated, anxious etc. Are aware when their moods.. read more →

What is More Important Than the SAT? (EQ #1)

Emotional Intelligence is “a set of emotional and social skills that influence the way we perceive and express ourselves, develop and maintain social relationships, cope with challenges, and use emotional information in an effective and meaningful way” (“Multi-Heath Systems, EQ Inventory User’s Handbook” (2011). These skills are important for relationship in our everyday life, but.. read more →

What You Don’t Know About Yourself May Hurt You……

The Johari Window  was developed by Joe Luft and Harry Ingram. This simple diagram is a great way to illustrate the knowledge we have of ourselves as well as other’s knowledge concerning us. We are all private about some things in our lives. We are also unaware of some values and beliefs that affect us. Sometimes.. read more →

The “BIG MO” (Motivation)

A recent N.Y Times article cited the work of Adam Grant, professor at the Wharton School. Grant has been influential in his work on motivation in the workplace.  Google turns to Grant’s wisdom and research when encountering her own problems, according to Prasad Setty, head of Google’s “people analytics.” Grant’s research strongly suggests that the.. read more →

Women Matter

Fairly recently, McKinsey and Company published a report entitled: “Women Matter: An Asian Perspective.”  I found the article enlightening.  For example, in China, 74% of women between the ages of 15-64 actively are engaged in the labor market, either working or looking for work. This is one of the highest percentages in countries around the.. read more →